Read this book before you go to counseling
Couples in Marriage Counseling and how they got there

You Complete Me
and Other Myths that Destroy
Happily Ever After

By Victoria Fleming Ph.D.

9. She (or He) Knows Me Better Than I Know Myself

Is this really true or just what you believe to be true? If you believe it's true, I wonder what motivates you to accept that?

Exploration of the self can be a painful and slow process, and so perhaps you can't be bothered with all that work. It may seem easier to go along deferring to others. On the other hand, perhaps you've been punished for having a mind of your own, and so you've learned to defer to the expertise of others in all matters, including your knowledge of self. Either way, it ain't good. No one should be more fascinated by you than YOU! And no one should know you better than you know yourself.