Myths
- You Complete Me
- Marriage Will Change Him
- If He Would Be Perfect, I Would Be Happy
- Let's Make a Deal: The Barter Economy Marriage
- We’ll Be Happy When We Get There
- Children Will Bring Us Closer Together
- Love Will Keep Us Together
- I Married the Perfect Person
- She Knows Me Better Than I Know Myself
- We Can Go Back To the Way We Were
9. She (or He) Knows Me Better Than I Know Myself
Is this really true or just what you believe to be true? If you believe it's true, I wonder what motivates you to accept that?
Exploration of the self can be a painful and slow process, and so perhaps you can't be bothered with all that work. It may seem easier to go along deferring to others. On the other hand, perhaps you've been punished for having a mind of your own, and so you've learned to defer to the expertise of others in all matters, including your knowledge of self. Either way, it ain't good. No one should be more fascinated by you than YOU! And no one should know you better than you know yourself.
Exploration of the self can be a painful and slow process, and so perhaps you can't be bothered with all that work. It may seem easier to go along deferring to others. On the other hand, perhaps you've been punished for having a mind of your own, and so you've learned to defer to the expertise of others in all matters, including your knowledge of self. Either way, it ain't good. No one should be more fascinated by you than YOU! And no one should know you better than you know yourself.
Victoria Fleming, Ph.D., LCPC, NCC
About the Author
Dr. Victoria Fleming (Ph.D., Indiana University) is an educator and therapist with a private practice in Chicago's northern suburbs. She travels the country offering lectures and workshops based on her current book, "You Complete Me and Other Myths that Destroy Happily Ever After."