Read this book before you go to counseling
Couples in Marriage Counseling and how they got there

You Complete Me
and Other Myths that Destroy
Happily Ever After

By Victoria Fleming Ph.D.

2. Marriage Will Change Him

The reality is that marriage will not change someone's core values, beliefs, or behaviors. If there's too much drinking, fighting, or flirting now, it's going to continue after the wedding. Pay attention to what is real. Would you expect a dog to turn into a cat? Of course not. Would you buy a red car if you really wanted blue? Trust me, the red car is not going to magically turn blue over time, and the dog is going to stay a dog.