Myths
- You Complete Me
- Marriage Will Change Him
- If He Would Be Perfect, I Would Be Happy
- Let's Make a Deal: The Barter Economy Marriage
- We’ll Be Happy When We Get There
- Children Will Bring Us Closer Together
- Love Will Keep Us Together
- I Married the Perfect Person
- She Knows Me Better Than I Know Myself
- We Can Go Back To the Way We Were
2. Marriage Will Change Him
The reality is that marriage will not change someone's core values, beliefs, or behaviors.
If there's too much drinking, fighting, or flirting now, it's going to continue after the wedding.
Pay attention to what is real. Would you expect a dog to turn into a cat? Of course not.
Would you buy a red car if you really wanted blue? Trust me, the red car is not going to magically turn blue over time,
and the dog is going to stay a dog.
Victoria Fleming, Ph.D., LCPC, NCC
About the Author
Dr. Victoria Fleming (Ph.D., Indiana University) is an educator and therapist with a private practice in Chicago's northern suburbs. She travels the country offering lectures and workshops based on her current book, "You Complete Me and Other Myths that Destroy Happily Ever After."