Read this book before you go to counseling
Couples in Marriage Counseling and how they got there

You Complete Me
and Other Myths that Destroy
Happily Ever After

By Victoria Fleming Ph.D.

7. Love Will Keep Us Together

"But we love each other!" How much abuse has been endured under this heading? Love seems to give people an excuse to stay with the ones who hurt them the most. It's the co-dependent's battle cry! Love gives you the opportunity for a life together, but it must be a life with dignity and mutual respect. Think of love as a starting point, something that can motivate you and your partner to be your best selves in the relationship.