Read this book before you go to counseling
Couples in Marriage Counseling and how they got there

You Complete Me
and Other Myths that Destroy
Happily Ever After

By Victoria Fleming Ph.D.

8. I Married The Perfect Person

No you didn't. You couldn't have because no one is perfect, and no one should have to be perfect.

If you believe your spouse is perfect, something is out of balance. If you accept your spouse's claim that YOU are perfect, something is out of place. The relationship is in trouble because someone isn't being honest. This dishonesty turns into games people play. If both people share the false belief that one partner is perfect, they are playing house. They take on the roles and go through the motions, but they can't really be getting to know each other with genuine emotional intimacy if the facade of perfection sits between them.