Read this book before you go to counseling
Couples in Marriage Counseling and how they got there

You Complete Me
and Other Myths that Destroy
Happily Ever After

By Victoria Fleming Ph.D.

6. Children Will Bring Us Closer Together

No they won't. In fact, they'll add to the stressors in your life, take away from your leisure time, and spend all your money. God Bless Them! We really do love them, and they enrich our lives in ways we could never have imagined. But you and your partner's short comings will be revealed through the demands of parenting. No, your children won't bring you closer together. In fact, if your relationship has issues, children will provide you with a big powerful magnifying glass and a white hot spotlight to shine on all the cracks in the foundation.